Let me be honest. My first IEP meeting was a train wreck with a side of coffee breath. I was a special education teacher. I knew the law. I thought I was ready. Then I sat down on the other side of the table as a parent, and everything changed.

It wasn’t that I didn’t understand what was being said. I did. But emotion hit me like a freight train. The second they started talking about my child, every ounce of professional confidence slipped away.

I found myself questioning everything I thought I knew. Was I asking the right things? Was I being that mom? Was I failing my own kid?

It’s one thing to advocate for someone else’s student. It’s another to advocate for your own child when your heart is pounding, the acronyms are flying, and you realize the stakes are your baby’s future. And here’s the kicker. According to the U.S. Department of Education, nearly 40% of parents report feeling confused, anxious, or unprepared during their child’s IEP process. That means almost half of us walk into meetings unsure what’s happening and sign paperwork we don’t fully understand.

That day, I promised myself two things:

1. I’d never walk into another meeting without understanding every option on the table.

2. I’d make sure no other parent ever had to either.

Here’s the truth. Schools have teams, specialists, and sometimes lawyers. Parents have Google and a prayer.

But when you know your rights, when you understand timelines, evaluations, and how to ask the right questions, everything changes. You stop reacting and start leading.

You can say things like, “Can you show me the data behind that decision?” instead of “Wait, what just happened?”
You can request Prior Written Notice instead of accepting “We’ll try that next year.”
You stop hoping they’ll do the right thing and start ensuring it.

That’s not confrontation. That’s confidence.

• That I could pause a meeting if I felt overwhelmed.

• That “informal supports” often delay needed services.

• That I didn’t have to agree to a new goal just because the school said it was “standard.”

Those little details are game changers.
According to national IDEA data, over 15% of disputes arise from miscommunication about evaluation and eligibility— not from “difficult parents,” but from uninformed ones.

That’s why I wrote Hot Mess to Head of the Table, a 345-page, full-color survival guide for parents, advocates, and anyone tired of walking into meetings feeling outnumbered.

I packed it with every tool I wish I’d had years ago:

✅ Checklists that keep you organized even when your brain feels fried
📨 Sample letters and scripts that make schools actually respond
📅 Step-by-step timelines for evaluations, IEPs, and complaints
📘 Iowa-specific and national versions so no one’s left guessing

Think of it as your IEP GPS, minus the “recalculating” voice.

I started out the “hot mess” parent, the one with a binder, tears, and too many sticky notes.

Now, I’m the one helping families walk into meetings calm, ready, and unshakable.

Because when you know your stuff, you don’t just attend the meeting. You lead it with data, strategy, and a little sparkle of sarcasm.

Most people know me as the person who shows up to IEP meetings armed with office supplies, data, and caffeeine. But advocacy doesn’t stop when the meeting ends or when one family’s case is closed.

Every IEP, every conversation, every email I write connects to something bigger, a system that needs to do better. The changes I fight for at the table are the same ones I work for in our community, at the state level, and even on Capitol Hill.

Because when one family wins, we all move forward.

This work is deeply personal to me. I’m not just an advocate or educator. I’m also the mom of a teen with special needs.

His future is at the center of everything I do. Every policy I study, every training I attend, every family I support, it all ties back to creating a world where students like him have real access, inclusion, and opportunity.

That perspective keeps me grounded. It reminds me that advocacy isn’t abstract; it’s about people. It’s about our kids’ everyday lives and their futures.

As the Founder and Executive Director of Bridges 2 Advocacy, I am proud to wear many hats, all for the same purpose — to make sure families and individuals with disabilities are heard where decisions are made.

-VP, Autism Society of the Quad Cities
I work with parents, professionals, and self-advocates to build inclusion across local schools, workplaces, and communities. From sensory-friendly events to resource fairs, we are breaking down barriers one conversation at a time.

-Member, The Arc of Iowa
The Arc champions civil rights and community inclusion for people with intellectual and developmental disabilities. Through this network, I collaborate on statewide initiatives that strengthen services, funding, and legal protections.

-Member, Iowa Developmental Disabilities Council
This role allows me to help shape statewide policy and funding priorities to ensure that individuals with disabilities have access to employment, education, housing, and self-advocacy training.

-Member, Council of Parent Attorneys and Advocates (COPAA)
This national organization connects advocates and attorneys across the country. Through COPAA, I stay current on federal legislation, case law, and emerging advocacy strategies that directly influence how I support families here in Iowa and beyond.

Each of these roles feeds back into my daily work with families and ensures that the advice I give is not just practical, but informed by the very policies and systems shaping our children’s futures.

Advocacy doesn’t live in conference rooms. It lives in the community.

You’ll often find me at local awareness walks, sensory-friendly movie nights, and back-to-school resource fairs. I show up not just to network but to listen to the parents, teachers, and community members who remind me why this work matters.

Through Bridges 2 Advocacy, I also give back through community trainings, scholarship programs for families who can’t afford advocacy services, and collaborations with local nonprofits and schools.

Because advocacy isn’t just about what happens at the table. It’s about what happens after, when we build relationships, spread knowledge, and create bridges of understanding across our community.

I attend conferences, advocacy days, and legislative sessions to stay at the forefront of change.

When Iowa holds hearings or listening sessions on special education, I’m there.
When national disability policy shifts, I’m reading every line of it.
And when legislators meet to discuss funding or IDEA compliance, I’m the one saying, “Have you heard from the parents who live this every day?”

These experiences remind me that advocacy isn’t about being loud. It’s about being strategic, informed, and persistent.

When families work with me, they’re not just getting someone who understands IEP law. They’re getting an advocate who’s connected to every layer of the system, from the local district to the national policy table.

That means I can bring context, connections, and real-time insight that most advocates simply don’t have. It’s not just about getting your child the right support today. It’s about making sure the system is better for the next child tomorrow, including mine.

I started writing Hot Mess to Head of the Table to help parents walk into IEPs with confidence. But my mission has grown into something larger: to build bridges between families, schools, and policymakers so that no one ever has to fight alone.

As the Founder and Executive Director of Bridges 2 Advocacy, and as a mom of a teen with special needs, I believe that advocacy doesn’t end when the meeting adjourns. It begins again, in every room where decisions are made about our kids’ futures.

💙 Learn more about my statewide and national advocacy work and how it supports Bridges 2 Advocacy at www.bridges2advocacy.org
📘 Get your copy of Hot Mess to Head of the Table for real-world advocacy tools and strategies, and know that every purchase directly supports Bridges 2 Advocacy’s mission to provide free and low-cost advocacy services for families in need. www.bridges2advocacy.org
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